The great Chinese author Lu Xun said that "Everything requires careful consideration if one is to understand it." This certainly applies to the back and forth with Liam over same sex marriage and adoption. Characterising it as a debate is a stretch; from this side, it looks more like a barrage of name-calling, ad hominem arguments and the like. (It could be worse.) Nevertheless there are two things that I have come to realise in the course of all this.
The first is that the advocacy of same sex civil marriage is the advocacy of civil marriage itself. This is important in understanding why it is necessary to reject other solutions such as the abolition of civil marriage or civil unions. The way things work in our smashmouth political system, once you take a position, you must pursue it irrespective of whether it is the best way to deal with a problem (for you or anyone else) or not. There is nothing bigoted about characterising same sex marriage as a problem, because it is for those who want it (because it doesn’t exist) or those who don’t (because others are pushing for it.) Moreover Liam can whine about positions he finds ambiguous all he wants, but this does not stop him from trashing concepts other than same sex civil marriage right after he complains about ambiguity. In such a pugnaciously philistine environment there’s simply no incentive to propose solutions other than those commonly held.
The second is that civil marriage is inherently unequal. There are people who are married and people who are not; this automatically creates an inequality. Same sex marriage does not enhance equality, but only extends inequality to a new group of people. In the midst of all of this, it is not clear who comes out the worse for it. Same sex marriage people demand all of these "rights" that come with marriage, although Liam never gets around to enumerating what any or all of these "rights" might be. Christians lament of the state of civil marriage and oppose the creation of same-sex marriage, but frankly the basic Biblical reasons for marriage are no longer enshrined in U.S. law. In the midst of all this the marriage rate continues to decline; obviously a good number of heterosexual people have determined that the disadvantages of civil marriage outweigh its advantages for whatever reason.
Based on these and other considerations, I cannot accept Liam’s contention at face value that same sex civil marriage is a matter or right or logic. Frankly I’m not much on accepting things at face value, especially if I suspect they originate with those who think more strategically or politically than Liam does.
They seem to have secrets which I cannot guess, and once they are angry they will call anyone a bad character…Everything requires careful consideration if one is to understand it. In ancient times, as I recollect, people often ate human beings, but I am rather hazy about it. I tried to look this up, but my history has no chronology, and scrawled all over each page are the words: "Virtue and Morality." Since I could not sleep anyway, I read intently half the night, until I began to see words between the lines, the whole book being filled with the two words–"Eat people." (Lu Xun, Diary of a Madman, V)